“We [parents] want virtuous obedience. We want to train the habit of control, doing what is right because it is right. Children need to learn to focus on God’s will, not their own and on a Spirit-inspired control, not on self-control. Remember, a mature adult will die to self and be controlled by the Lord. We are training our children to become mature adults.”

Elizabeth Foss

True Discipline

“Discipline is not punishment – What is discipline? Look at the word; there is no hint of punishment in it. A disciple is a follower, and discipline is the state of the follower… He who would draw disciples does not trust to force; but to these three things:
To the attraction of his doctrine
To the persuasion of his presentation
To the enthusiasm of his disciples;
So the parent has teachings of the perfect life which he knows how to present continually with winning force until the children are quickened with such zeal for virtue and holiness as carries them forward with leaps and bounds.”

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