You forgive not in order to change the other person, but simply to follow Christ.
The bigger the change you’re suggesting, the more it will sap people’s self-control. And when people exhaust their self-control, what they are exhausting are the mental muscles needed to think creatively, to focus, to inhibit their impulses, and to persist in the face of frustration or failure. In other words, they’re exhausting precisely the mental muscles needed to make a big change. So when you hear people say that change is hard because people are lazy or resistant, that’s just flat wrong. In fact, the opposite is true: Change is hard because people wear themselves out…. What looks like laziness is often exhaustion.
“The ultimate measure of a person is not where they stand in moments of comfort and convenience, but where they stand at times of challenge and controversy.”
Martin Luther King, Jr.
“To live is to change, and to be perfect is to have changed often. “
John Henry Cardinal Newman
“Writing is like breathing, it’s possible to do it well, but the point is to do
it no matter what.”